(quote) Marge-938695 said: I've met several men who enjoyed my children and were kind to them. Sadly for me, none of them had any interest in me.
I have also known men who are:
a) too stingy to want to spend money on someone else's child, or
b) too proud to think of any children but their "own" (i.e., biologically), or
c) nervous or inexperienced and fearful of not knowing how to help raise the kids, or
d) too selfish to want to share the mother's attention.
Marge, I often wonder when I read profiles of men who have a list of interests a mile long, for every season, indoors and out, are healthy eaters, have a regular fitness routine, maintain their intellectual pursuits, etc, and are looking for a woman to keep up with them AND want to have a family. It's just not reality. Kids take your time, your talent and your money, whether they are bio or adopted or step. Your house is always a bit messy, something always needs to be fixed, someone always needs to be fed, and there's not a lot of "couple" time when the house is full and kids are young. Maybe as women we are more realistic about this. Just my thoughts.