(quote) Suzanne-930338 said: Marge, I often wonder when I read profiles of men who have a list of interests a mile long, for every season, indoors and out, are healthy eaters, have a regular fitness routine, maintain their intellectual pursuits, etc, and are looking for a woman to keep up with them AND want to have a family. It's just not reality. Kids take your time, your talent and your money, whether they are bio or adopted or step. Your house is always a bit messy, something always needs to be fixed, someone always needs to be fed, and there's not a lot of "couple" time when the house is full and kids are young. Maybe as women we are more realistic about this. Just my thoughts.
I have seen so many profiles like that and it perplexes me. Some men seem to want more of an activities or adventure partner than anything else, it seems. I do understand wanting to have fun, but it strikes me as a bit unrealistic too. That kind of lifestyle won't last once kids enter the picture unless one is rich!
This isn't always the case, but profiles like that seem to focus more on fun than on piety. When I view a profile, I want to see more about how the person's character has been shaped by their religious life. It amazes me how some barely mention God at all.
As far as how children affect dating prospects, I really do think it can scare some people away. I have 2 kids, both 10+. I have men occasionally drop me notes, basically telling me how impressed they were with my profile, but even they
don't seem to want to actually pursue. It's frustrating to say the least. I have no ex drama because he's not in our lives and the kids don't even remember him...but one child is severely disabled so that's probably a huge factor.
Hopefully all of us eligible women (and men!) with kids will find people willing to take a chance on us.