(quote) Molly-688164 said: Zachary, Welcome to the Church. We need you! And Happy Birthday
((A CM membership, what a great gift to give to yourself!))
A. Be sure to find authentic Catholic information: classes and books. Look for 'the meat and potatoes Truth'. Stay away from the fluffy feel good, do what you think is right, watered down nonsense....it's still everywhere and has been a disaster for the souls searching for the truth.
B. Impressive statement. ((God must like virgins, because He created everyone as a virgin.)) So everyone is born a virgin, it's what they do with their virginity. It can only be given one time. Not twice. Just once. The first time. Virginity is a precious, personalized gift to give another person in marriage. ((It's ridiculed, by those who've lost it/thrown it away/wasted it/sold it/squandered it. Virgins don't scoff at other virgins. They seek them out.)) We should be taught better why it's so special, how to better protect it, how to master our will and our body. It's this mastery that creates fidelity, necessary for marriage.
Congratulations, you've still got it! ((It's equally important for men, as well as women. Women want a man who can be faithful to them! It might be harder for a man to retain.....so it's more important for men to practice the skills needed to protect themselves from loosing this unique, personal gift they could give their wife.))
Thanks for the Bday wishes everyone. I got stuck late at work and it's raining. Oh well. *shrugs*
As for the various points in the above:
A. Yeah, I'm looking for the good books and trying to find a nearby church to get classes in. I still need to figure out if the parishes around me are any good (mixed reviews to say the least) and get this process really underway. If you or anyone else has any suggestions for books and such, let me know through the various means on here.
B. Yeah, my statement about my own virginity isn't aimed at CM, but every other dating site I've used (which isn't in double-digit numbers). Every other site is OBSESSED with sex and the various ways it occurs ... it's annoying. I've always believed and was raised to believe that virginity is a gift meant for the person you're marrying. Admittedly, it's not like I was in very high demand in high school or college (I was pretty overweight then). More than anything, it's just that I made a promise to God about it. Now, let's me be honest and say at other points in my life I've made such promises and broken them. But this one just can't be broken in my view. It's the one that I've always held myself accountable for.
Onto the point about online dating being similar to porn. In some respects, I agree with the statement. Both things are trying to "sell" another person on something. With online dating, you're trying to sell a person into clicking on your profile and, perhaps, communicate with you. With porn you want the person to click and watch.
Both do focus on the visual, both do emphasize it.
But I will disagree that makes them the same kind of thing or even close. Online dating (and one can make the argument every online interaction falls here) is an attempt by one person to reach out to another, to connect and see if that connection turns into something.
With pornography, it's a soulsucking experience that's about instant gratification and a high. It's completely dehumanizing for both the person in the video and the one watching. It lacks an essential human element that online dating doesn't.
Online dating can be more than just a few lines in various sections of the profile. It can be communication, which is a major component of any relationship and a foundational building block for all of them. You can't communicate with porn. You can communicate with other human beings who are, somewhere in the world, sitting in front of a keyboard waiting to hear back from someone.