This seems like a good context to recycle the famous JPII quote:
There is no dignity when the human dimension is eliminated from the person. In short, the problem with pornography is not that it shows too much of the person, but that it shows far too little.
― John Paul II
Is this what you are intuiting? That a person's human dimension can be diminished by the Internet medium? One's humanity is not eliminated, but I do feel objectification and isolation of parts (face, words) from the whole person can distort reality. On the other hand, I think CM, unlike a bar scene, can serve to magnify the beauty of the mind, heart and soul. Giving truly intelligent, morally good, and inwardly beautiful a safe place to shine!
As my experiences with online dating occurred over the years, I learned a few lessons. It really doesn't matter (to some extent) what's in the profile, emails, etc., what matters is the F2F. That's really Day One in the relationship. You usually sit there and try to reconcile in your mind that the person that you knew on paper is actually the person who is sitting right in front of you. This also occurs with the initial phone call. Ideally, a person is consistent, from profile to emails, to chats, to phone calls, to meeting in person. The glowing profile means nothing if he doesn't treat you right, period. It's very easy to create a false persona on paper, which is why I don't place a lot of credence into a profile. Yes, I expect it to be the truth, but I guess that I am not going to be as impressed over them as I used to be. I have been fortunate to meet some CM men, and I will say that the ones who I knew from the Forums were pretty much what I expected. I will tell you, though, it's waay too tempting to talk about the Forums when you meet a fellow Forum person!
So, anyway, it's more important to watch what a man does (watch his feet), than what he says. Most of us will take action over pretty words any day!