(quote) Christina-1018729 said: I'm not sure if this is the right forum but here goes. I am new to the site and I have a full account. I've already had a number of men view my profile, and some either send emoticons or answer my interview questions, but I still haven't gotten a single message from anyone. I know I've only been a member for a few days, but I just want to prepare myself if this is normally how guys work on this site. The emoticons are fine, but for the most part I believe the woman is meant to be pursued. So it is confusing to me as to why, so far at least, none of the guys seem to be confident enough to really reach out with a full message. I have even tried making first contact with two members whose profiles I found really intriguing, but haven't gotten a reply even though the site says both members have since viewed my profile and were curretly online at some point today. I am trying to remind myself that not everyone has a full acount so I guess they wouldn't be able to reply by message, or of course they may simply be uninterested . I'm pretty new to the whole online thing, so like I said before I'm just trying to determine what my expectations should be on how guys act in an online setting.
If anyone has advice, comments, or has personal experience with this anything would be appreciated. Thanks :)
Welcome to CM! Thanks for your post! I am sorry your initial experience here has been underwhelming. There are likely a number of reasons why you are experiencing little initial success. I've attempted to discuss one theory of mine in my recent post, "Possible to be Attracted from a Profile?" Many other reasons were outlined by Lenn in his previous post.
There are many sweeping generalizations that could be made about why the situation is as it is. Just recently I became acquainted with a woman who has been on CM for SEVEN YEARS and only NOW has a man contacted her who is compatible and they are currently in a relationship. I think it is important to be realistic about this process. I also had high hopes for finding a match in short order. I am a good woman and good catch
and in the "real world" have no problem attracting men. Yet I am looking to find a man who takes his faith as seriously as I do, and this type of man is rare in my area. So that's why I am on CM.
Rather than attempting to answer your question with some of these sweeping generalizations and run the risk of hurting feelings, the bottom line is that if you want to find someone on CM, you will have to be patient - and perhaps VERY patient! I am struggling with the same questions as you. I think the best thing to do is to lower your expectations and concentrate on living life rather than on your CM success (or lack thereof). That way, when that man who shares compatibility with you and is ready for a relationship shows up, you have not become embittered by the wait and are able to open yourself freely to him!