I sincerely hope and pray you'll find a good man, and God will help us know who we can and cannot trust. :pray:
Thank you so much for sharing your experience and advice with all of us , it is definitely an eye opener!
i really like the idea of people with STDs only being with those who have it or at least let the person they see a future with know they have them.
I had an incident last night with someone while talking on the phone, my mom asked the man if he was sexually active because she believes that you should be able to ask that question and if the guy gets scared off then he isn't worth the time (plus she is protective of her little girl hahah). Don't get me wrong, I most certainly appreciate my mom asking him now that the embarrassment has subsided because I found some things about him that i wouldn't have as soon.
Just felt like it was a little bit too soon to ask.
But it got me thinking "when would be the right time to ask a guy ?"
It got my gears turning and though the pre-marital question on the profiles are helpful, what happens if I meet someone that isn't on this site, how could I know?
1. Not my business until I have an emotional claim on him.
2. If I have an emotional claim on him, I'm hoping he would "forsake all others" in favor of me.
3. Before the wedding I would insist on a full physical and blood tests for both of us.
It makes sense. Out in the jungle, ya just never know. I would probably be asking the same thing your mom did. I am VERY protective of my daughter. In fact, I would probably have just taken the phone, pull him through it, and watch his expression as I ask him the question. I just kill myself sometimes!