Maybe I should ask my dance teacher about it, since she is single and sometimes dances too close to me when I'm taking a lesson with her. I don't think that I would ask about STDs with anyone unless I was interested in courting them; it wouldn't be any of my business.
I would ask before the first date. Since this is a dating site chances are the guy you meet
is not going to be your next door neighbor. You should be communicating long enough
that you feel comfortable talking about anything. It should not be uncomfortable asking
him to provide or take a STD test. If he refuses either one...he's not your guy. Be totally
open about this and everything. Be willing to make an appointment for them. Being a guy
I can say without bias. Most guys just need a nudge in the right direction to get the ball rolling.
Most guys are not current on their tetanus shots, out alone an STD report:). Show this
potential mate you care about them, yourself and everything about both as a couple.
If he's too squirrely he's got some growing up to do. If he refuses, don't swap spit or anything else.
It will only increase his respect for you and your own respect for yourself.
btw if he refuses he does not deserve your respect "or anything else you bring to the table including your
health or your body"
What he's bringing to the table better be equally good.
You do not have to get loud to hold your mark or level of standard. Lovingly hold each other accountable.
Your gentle kindness will move a mountain of a man in the right direction to please you. Plus you
will see how big he is from the inside out. His mental maturity will become apparent.
Actions speak louder than words.