I know how frustrating the uncertainty and waiting can be during the annullment process. Mine has been in process for almost a year and I just recently found out that after 5 months the Tribunal hadn't received a questionaire from one of my closest friends. That was quite a blow but I decided that God must have a reason for them waiting that long to let me know they hadn't received it.
I'm glad to hear that you've grown in your faith and that you're changing your focus from food and alcohol to something healthier and better for you and your children and potentially your life partner. Maybe this is all part of the moulding God is dong within you to ready you to be the faith focused family woman you want to be.
The fact that you're on CM and not some other dating site shows that you're pointing your sights in the right direction, toward a committment to finding a Catholic man to help you in your journey toward eternity and to allow you to help him in his. I congratulate you on that.
I know that God will direct you down the road that's best for you if you listen to His voice and continue to grow in your faith. I agree with others that praying for your ex will help free you from the feelings of resentment and the feeling that you're carrying a burden and he's leading a life of self-fulfillment. The choices you're making now are leading you toward a reward that far exceeds anything you could experience in this life. I hope that thought brings you comfort.
God bless you on your journey and may the Peace of Christ be with you,