Read a few verses every morning...Ephesians helped me...being impatient is kinda like being a bit selfish
but we are all flawed to some degree.
I know how deep seeded the hurt can be but don't deny your children's father entrance to heaven for lack of
forgiveness on your part. He will be judged.
As for me, the most of the first 3 years the mere mention of their names would cause me collapse (literally on the floor) to the point if hysteria. I decline at the last minute for next 4 years to actually go on a date. 10 years later dating is approached with extreme caution.
Still having trouble? write it down in a journal...30 days later...its water under the bridge:)
My annulment took over 3 years so I took that time to empty my self out so I could fill up with good things.
I was alone for 22 years after my second divorce.. I think God has his own reasons for making us wait. My new husband is perfect for me.. I had to wait until he became widowed for him to come into my life.
You didn't specify that it had to be good advice, so here goes . . .
(But I had the advantage of knowing I had a very good case, so I never stressed out about it.)
I know, I know . . . easier said than done (and not always possible).
Wishing you blessings for a successful outcome.