"I so love, when you lift the veil of your soul for me, to enter into that private sanctuary where you live completely alone with Him who wants you all for Himself and who creates a beloved solitude within you for Himself. Refresh Him there, my little Germaine, by resting in HIm; listen to all that is being sung in His Soul, in His Heart; it is Love, infinite Love that envelopes us and wants us to share even here below in all His beatitudes. The entire Trinity rests within us, this whole mystery that will be our vision in Heaven; let this be your cloister.....Mine too: I am "Elizabeth of the Trinity," that is, Elizabeth disappearing, losing herself, letting herself be invaded by the three; you can see that we are very close in Them, we are completely one, aren't we?"
In general, men are more egotistical than women. Men tend to cling to the things that make them peculiarly themselves. Women, on the other hand, intuitively understand the meaning of Mary's fiat: that it is in the act of self-abandonment to the Most High that Christ is conceived into this world. I think God gave women this capacity to lose themselves in another because He desired women to be mothers, When a woman is with child, there are no clear boundaries between self and other: the two are one. The walls which surround the ego are much more porous, because women must be open to being physically inhabited by another. It's this distinctively feminine capacity to dissolve the distinction between self and other, of bride and Divine Spouse, which made me think Bl. Elizabeth might belong in a profound theology of woman.
Your quote and comment, I'm sure could launch conversations in a thousand directions. I hope you have had some follow up. I'd rather talk about life in the Trinity and beatitude truly begin here on earth. In terms of beatitude, I think a male counterpart of Blessed Elizabeth's youth, passion, and magnanimity is Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati, a hero of mine.
I would agree that men, in general, struggle with egotism. However, to collapse any lengthy syllogisms, I could not help but recall Maureen O'Hara's fictional character in The Quiet Man. There are forms of pride (vanity, selfishness, etc.) and attachment to material things and maternal strings that men do not do not struggle with. Women perhaps are less aloof and more contextual. So, maybe letting go of one's identity based on career/work would be more difficult for men as it was for Peter and the apostles. St. Ignatius' preparation to leave the great mission of the Jesuit after 15 minutes of prayer comes to mind. I sense both genders struggle with clinging onto their favorite "Russian potato". I have been blessed with many great spiritual mothers and sisters. This is all anecdotal, but in a Bible Study I was in, there was general ageement among the mena and women, that whereas men might struggle with bragging (egotism) they struggle with gossip, in some ways a more pernicious vice.
It is so difficult to not speak in generalities at such a short length! Thank you for your overlooking any of my shortcomings in this area!