(quote) Matt-61677 said: Dear Michelle,
Your daughter is absolutely correct to think that you are being to picky to only consider Catholic men. There have been too many successful marriages between Catholics and non-Catholics to say otherwise. I have a good, very Catholic friend who dated a non Catholic who converted. I have another who married a wonderful woman who was not. She did not convert but they are raising 5 wonderful children Catholic.
She is absolutely wrong to think that you won't find a Catholic gent. how can she see the future? Finding another Catholic means you will already be compatible on all the important points, and that's worth being a bit picky about.
Marrying outside the faith is a pretty serious business, so my advice is concentrate on finding a good Catholic, but Don,t tell a good, handsome and charming gent no just because he isn't Catholic. If you are both adults you should be able to discern if the relationship should go forward or not.
Peace in Christ,
The Church encourages Catholics to marry within the faith because of the problems that can result in other situations: both involving conflicts over raising and properly educating children in the Faith and the potential for the faith of the Catholic spouse to suffer -- or be rejected entirely.
Yes, there are some situations where God calls a Catholic to marry a non-Catholic, and one should not reject this calling because of the disparity of faith; however, such a calling is something that must be discerned on an individual basis (as should any consideration of marriage), not assumed because inter-faith marriages have worked for other people.
It should also be noted that because certain marriages appear
to be working well (we can never really know what is going on) that the union was God's will for those people.
One reason the divorce rate in western societies is so high is becaue dating is treated far too casually, people develop emotional intimacy with someone they never should have been involved with in the first place, and they follow their emotions rather than reason straight to the altar -- and eventually into divorce court.
If the Church feels that marrying a Catholic spouse is important enough to require special approval in other circumstances, t would certainly be prudent for us to heed this advice rather than dismissing it because it isn't an absolute requirement. We can focus our efforts on looking for a Catholic potential spouse while not ignoring a non-Catholic if God sends such a person our way (after discerning they were dispatched by God and not other spirits with less benevolent intent).