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This room is dedicated to those who are facing the challenge of raising children without the support of a spouse. This is a place to share ideas and lend mutual support.

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Feb 25th 2014 new

Congratulations, Sam! Disneyworld is a blast. My best picture from there was when all the princesses walked out in front of my daughter and she looked at me with the biggest, happiest smile!

Let's see, I got out to Whirleyball and the ice caves, bingo, and have been teaching my son to drive on icy roads. I also threw a super bowl party for a gaggle of teens.

Feb 25th 2014 new

Good idea. Today I am at the "Old Fire Station" built in late 1800's and the fire station is now elsewhere. They have coffee and cake for practically nothing three days a week. As you can see I am sitting in the "computer room" where folks have a chat and some folk who are more skilled than I am, help kids with there homework.

Since I became a "poor" student yesterday I need to do free things. Luckily I live in an inner city village which is vibrant and cosmopolitan and you can just watch as people walk by. Fascinating. Wonder whether they are artists, craft people. Some very poor and on the "right" side of the tracks some very wealthy.

Feb 26th 2014 new
(quote) John-132457 said: Glad to know I'm not the only guy trying to play Ukulele! Haven't managed to hook with a club yet though.

Hey great, John. I love the music of IZ and Gabby Pahanui.

You might try the website called MeetUp. The club I joined, one of about 6 in San Diego, uses MeetUp for info.

Aloha

Feb 26th 2014 new
(quote) Sam-427739 said: Yay, Gerald! What the heck is T25, by the way?

Oh, it's one of these intense core body and cardio workouts you can get on DVD via infomertials. Sort of a motivational thing where you exercise with the really buff guys and gals. These ones really kick your butt, so to speak.

If Tai Chi is relaxed, balanced, 50% effort, rather Yin, then T25 is very Yang to the hilt, 100%, use everything and go all out. Together they work on both the analytical and the synthetic in my psyche. Of course, my knees are screaming!

Feb 28th 2014 new
(quote) Sam-427739 said:

What have you done lately to get out of your comfort zone? I could use some ideas for my next adventure!


For me, because I was single well into adulthood, I don't have any qualms about doing things as a single adult. However, one of the things that I have had to do to get out of my comfort zone, is to be "the fun one." My late husband was the fun one. He was also the one who would bait the hooks, manage bloody cuts, clean up vomit, and do all sorts of "manly" things with my kids. I was the one that kept things grounded and kept things rolling smoothly in the family. Not a wet blanket, but certainly not fun. So far in the last 18 months I have done all kinds of things like compete with my kids on the xBox Just Dance, around the house stuff, and right now, I am reading up on "whittling" because my two cub scouts need to earn their "whittling chip" and to do so, they have to carve a bear out of soap. So my brave thing here is being OK with my 10 yr old boys using a pocket knife.

Sorry, it won't help you on your list of adventures. How about a 3-day cruise somewhere? That's what I want to do for myself sometime in the next year or two.
Feb 28th 2014 new
(quote) Kimberlie-1059215 said: For me, because I was single well into adulthood, I don't have any qualms about doing things as a single adult. However, one of the things that I have had to do to get out of my comfort zone, is to be "the fun one." My late husband was the fun one. He was also the one who would bait the hooks, manage bloody cuts, clean up vomit, and do all sorts of "manly" things with my kids. I was the one that kept things grounded and kept things rolling smoothly in the family. Not a wet blanket, but certainly not fun. So far in the last 18 months I have done all kinds of things like compete with my kids on the xBox Just Dance, around the house stuff, and right now, I am reading up on "whittling" because my two cub scouts need to earn their "whittling chip" and to do so, they have to carve a bear out of soap. So my brave thing here is being OK with my 10 yr old boys using a pocket knife.

Sorry, it won't help you on your list of adventures. How about a 3-day cruise somewhere? That's what I want to do for myself sometime in the next year or two.
I beg to differ on the excitement of whittling chips. I have a 12 year old and a couple of nephews who earned their Arrows of Light in the last couple years. Letting 'em carve bears out of soap is DEFINITELY an adventure. Put it this way: we learned that you can seal up a fair sized cut with Superglue in a pinch. Luckily one of the dads on the campout was an EMT so I didn't have to patch up my nephew myself. I just had to hold up my sister who looked about to faint!

We've been on our own since my daughter was 7 months, so perhaps I have a little more practice at the single parent thing. It's hard being both the fun one and the responsible one. A hug & a rose ! I know it's not easy.

I highly recommend the cruise. We did a 4 day one and having someone else cook and clean while I just enjoyed my kids was HEAVEN.
Feb 28th 2014 new
(quote) Sam-427739 said: I beg to differ on the excitement of whittling chips. I have a 12 year old and a couple of nephews who earned their Arrows of Light in the last couple years. Letting 'em carve bears out of soap is DEFINITELY an adventure. Put it this way: we learned that you can seal up a fair sized cut with Superglue in a pinch. Luckily one of the dads on the campout was an EMT so I didn't have to patch up my nephew myself. I just had to hold up my sister who looked about to faint!

We've been on our own since my daughter was 7 months, so perhaps I have a little more practice at the single parent thing. It's hard being both the fun one and the responsible one. A & a ! I know it's not easy.

I highly recommend the cruise. We did a 4 day one and having someone else cook and clean while I just enjoyed my kids was HEAVEN.

Hi Sam.

I just wanted to praise you for letting your sons play with knives and learn for themselves how to use them well and what happens when you're careless. Personally, I think every boy at least, and possibly most girls too, should learn this...and a whole lot of other real life things that our society has almost stopped teaching them. You are to be commended for having the courage to let them be kids, learn, have a few harmless ouchies, and grow up from the experiences. Good on you!

I was a Boy Scout and had those experiences, too. My Dad gave me a gun for Christmas when I was twelve. I learned how to handle it safely and shoot it reasonably well. Later, of course, I had more weapons training in the Navy. Now, I am not enamoured by weapons and do not engage in that hobby very much, but I do feel very safe and confident around a firearm and could use it to effect were it ever needed. I'd like to know my kids could say the same.

Were I a new parent, I would give my kids a knife at 10 and a gun at 12. I'd teach them how to skipper a boat properly at age 11 and give them the keys then if they'd earned my trust with their knowledge and responsibility. I'd teach them to drive as soon as they could steer over the steering wheel. I'd teach them to fly as soon as they could drive...say age 12 or 13 and help them get their pilot's license at 16 if they were into it.

Anyway, just wanted to compliment you for being a great Mom.

Jerry

Mar 2nd 2014 new
(quote) Gerald-283546 said:

Hi Sam.

I just wanted to praise you for letting your sons play with knives and learn for themselves how to use them well and what happens when you're careless. Personally, I think every boy at least, and possibly most girls too, should learn this...and a whole lot of other real life things that our society has almost stopped teaching them. You are to be commended for having the courage to let them be kids, learn, have a few harmless ouchies, and grow up from the experiences. Good on you!

I was a Boy Scout and had those experiences, too. My Dad gave me a gun for Christmas when I was twelve. I learned how to handle it safely and shoot it reasonably well. Later, of course, I had more weapons training in the Navy. Now, I am not enamoured by weapons and do not engage in that hobby very much, but I do feel very safe and confident around a firearm and could use it to effect were it ever needed. I'd like to know my kids could say the same.

Were I a new parent, I would give my kids a knife at 10 and a gun at 12. I'd teach them how to skipper a boat properly at age 11 and give them the keys then if they'd earned my trust with their knowledge and responsibility. I'd teach them to drive as soon as they could steer over the steering wheel. I'd teach them to fly as soon as they could drive...say age 12 or 13 and help them get their pilot's license at 16 if they were into it.

Anyway, just wanted to compliment you for being a great Mom.

Jerry

hug Thanks, Jerry! Single parenting doesn't come with many "attagirls" so I appreciate it. Growing up on a farm with a pile of brothers probably had a lot to do with shaping my attitude. Here's a quote for you:

"A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects." Robert Heinlein, Time Enough for Love
Mar 2nd 2014 new
(quote) Sam-427739 said: Thanks, Jerry! Single parenting doesn't come with many "attagirls" so I appreciate it. Growing up on a farm with a pile of brothers probably had a lot to do with shaping my attitude. Here's a quote for you:

"A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects." Robert Heinlein, Time Enough for Love

Hi Sam. great quote! I wholeheartedly agree. I might also add, "A human being should be able to pray humbly, speak simply with a child, bring pleasure to one's lover, and try to pay one's debts (knowing we can never fully repay all of them...especially those to God and parents).

Regarding specialization, I might qualify Heinlein a little. Specialization in one area is almost necessary for success in one's field nowadays and for the human race to advance. However, being fully human requires being a generalist. So, I might say one should be a competent human first and then, if intelligence, energy and ambition allow, specialize in but one area. But, be the competent generalist, the compleat human being first...yes, I agree!

In medicine there is a saying: The specialist knows everything but does nothing; the generalist knows nothing but does everything; the pathologist knows everything and does everything, but too late. smile

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