Still a work in progress.
In terms of mate choices, we are daughters of God and we deserve to be treated no less than that which is becoming of His daughter. Sometimes it takes us a while to, in the words of the scripture, "choose wisely," we have to learn how to choose wisely and we can do that best when we know who we are and whose we are. When we humbly recognize we are a work in progress, God has our attention. That is a good thing
Yes. I'm a special ed teacher. I currently work with preschoolers with developmental delays. I don't take my work home with me, but it's hard because my student's parents seem to be more in need of emotional support than my students and I don't turn them away when they call.
I can relate, Daniel! Actually, I thought it was going to be my husband that wouldn't survive my quiting. I was tempted to write a book called "Quiting Smoking During PMS and the Husband That Survived It."
I haven't really dated enough to have a history of failures. I am flawed though, so that part fits. I guess when I was younger I lacked self-confidence and found myself in controlling relationships because it was familiar. Rather than get out, I learned to assert myself. (This is still a work in progress.) Maturity has shown me that I am a worthwhile person and widowhood has brought enough growth spurts to fuel my independence.
So now while I still have opinions about things I don't express them I ways that make it seem like they would never change. Besides I've found that my perspectives can be easily changed so now I am way more fluid in how I think.
I can mention an improvement that is related to communication. If a woman gets angry, I now realize something about which I was not previously aware. Her anger means that, instead of hiding how she feels, she shows it. I now realize that any deep relationship requires that both parties feel comfortable in communicating their feelings and so a woman's feeling free to show anger and other unpleasant emotions means that she has one characteristic needed for the real communication needed for a deep relationship, communicating what she feels. Of course, the possession of the ability to express anger is not by itself enough for a deep relationship. It's just one necessary aspect.
I'd call my progress in this matter a point of growth. The previous lack of insight about anger was never the cause leading to the end of a relationship.