Hmmmm. What flaws of my own have I fixed? I consider smoking a flaw I used to have. I quit smoking cold turkey on cold turkey day 1976. Not one puff since. I guess I could count that. Im sure glad I quit but it was not easy. For the first ten years, I thought I was going to die.
Yes. I'm a special ed teacher. I currently work with preschoolers with developmental delays. I don't take my work home with me, but it's hard because my student's parents seem to be more in need of emotional support than my students and I don't turn them away when they call.
We are all works in progress--isn't that the truth? God is NOT finished with me yet, for certain!
God made us to be physically attractive and we take marriage vows to stay married when some may become unattractive physically.
It seems to me that it would be easier to remain married to someone that you were once attracted to than to marry someone for everything else but sex. Maybe this only applies to ones who have never been married and never enjoyed a sex life.
I thought that way myself--it's smarter to date a man at least 2 years before committing to marriage. When I read your post, however, I recalled things I read about how a relationship/marriage goes through stages. The honeymoon or romantic stage could last maybe 2 years before the couple enter the realistic stage, and it's in this stage where the love aura could fade and that power struggles could surface; the couple see each other's flaws much more clearly, and the sense of feeling like you settled, or feeling cheated of something better, moves in. It takes some hard work sometimes to move through this stage to the next, mature stage of love, where each partner feels safe and secure with each other, happy and fulfilled, accepting of each other honestly. But this stage isn't reached unless the struggles of the prior stage are lived through. Being committed in marriage, where both persons know it is "for life", can make the couple accept that realistic stage and lovingly, earnestly work through it, instead of fleeing at the first sign of trouble, because no commitment is there. The relative ease in getting a divorce these days is sad. If people dont know these stages are very natural and come to all relationships, that realistic stage can scare too many people into thinking a mistake was made, and jump ship from a person who could be the best match there is.