98% of what I see on CM is inspiring to me. People treating each other as I imagine the first Christians did, with joy, compassion, kindness, support-and frankness, too. Paul taught honesty was the best way to dispel tension and bring about renewed community.
But sometimes I see hostility, often towards non 7-of-7s. And Im a bit baffled by it.
I believe that God tells us what is good and what is not. He doesnt do it to be punishing or cruel. He deeply wants us to be happy, and knows how that can happen, so He tells it like it is.
For example, pre-marital sex. Lots of forum discussions on that.
God doesnt think sex is bad. He invented it, He knows how, in perfect sacramental love, two people can be joined in an ecstasy so powerful that Psalms were written about it.
He also knows how much heartbreak and pain and suffering can come from accepting less than that ideal, probably from the millions of prayers asking for comfort from those suffering.
If someone doesnt understand that, or any of Gods rules, being harsh with them is not going to help. It wont draw them closer to God, wont make them suddenly see the light. Making them go away, and use a different site, doesnt prevent the pain they risk.
My son is six. He does not understand in any way the danger of not looking before he crosses the street. I do. So I drill it into him, remind him, watch him. Fear for him. Pray for him.
When he disobeys, I dont shun him. I dont tell him hes not part of our family. I dont remind him how smart I am compared to him. I yell, I admit it. But I yell while Im hugging him and telling him Im so glad he didnt get run over.
Its how God acts with me.
None of us is as spiritually as mature as Christ. And as a non 7-of-7, I may be much more immature than everyone, anyone on this site. But looking back over my life, my spiritual maturity has grown, every year, and not by accident. I read, pray, talk, reflect, embrace the Sacraments as a lifeline in my tempest. Am I what God hopes me to be? No, and I know it, deeply. But each morning I awake is a new chance. How will I understand and accept Gods hopes and plan today?
So, when you encounter someone you see as less spiritually mature than you, maybe pray for them. If you feel anger, or frustration, or extreme disappointment, embrace that, and then let it go, so you can appreciate the grace youve been given to understand something perhaps someone else cannot yet.
Even six year olds are loved by God.