(quote) Bernadette-874299 said: Hello Patrick,
from my experience, telling a woman that you want to be friends is telling her that you're not ready for a relationship, but want to keep the door open to the possibility of one in the future. What she will be hearing is that you want her to sit on a shelf and wait for you to be ready, as though she has no other prospects. It's not meant as an insult (usually because timing or emotions aren't right), but women, as well as men can be very sensitive to things of this nature, so I can only guess that she cut off the friendship because she didn't want you believing that there was a possibility of a romantic relationship in the future because she wouldn't be waiting around. I'm not sure what to make of her flirtatious behavior, but I do know of people who, when trying to be friendly and happy around someone come off as flirty when that was never their intention. I hope this answers some questions for you and may help you to find closure.
This works both ways. Men will hear "you are the type of man I would like to find myself in a relationship with but not one I find attractive physically" or "I liked you at first but then you opened your mouth" or " my offer of freindship is only out of pity not to hurt your feelings with total rejection." When it could
and often does mean "I like you but have learned from the past not to let physical attraction cause me to move to fast so lets take this slow" which is what we are taught by the church to do. Or any number of other possible
meanings. People usually hear what they want to based on thier own experiences and/or assumptions. Bottom line is the "friend" tag is the number two killer of any possible real God blessed romantic relationship behind only the placing of sex before actually knowing a person. It is like dancing with the devil.one step forewar two steps back never gettin where you are goin.