(quote) Paul-1049651 said: I probably shouldn't say this, but....
Many, many years ago my parents bought a family plot, and informed me, to my surprise, that this included space for me.
Years later my wife passed away and was buried in another cemetery altogether. There's a stone there with her name and mine on it, with space for my date of death.
However, if I remarry, there will presumably be a third grave involved at some point.
The obvious solution is to be cremated and have a scoop deposited in each.
Getting into the spirit of the thing, I thought of having little cards printed saying "Want to pay your requests to Paul? Choose any one of three convenient locations near you!".
It might get me a page in the Guiness Book of Records, anyway.
As Catholics, we treat the cremains the same as we would treat the body....which must be buried in sacred ground and hopefully not divided up. (Unless you turn out to be a Saint, in which case if you lived in the olden days they would be distributing your relics far and wide. Don't worry, it's not done anymore.) I read in the book "The End" that at the end of time your angel has to go and collect your body. Don't make it too difficult..... leave a map!
This idea of an obituary made my mind turn to eulogies, which Catholics are not to do...we are to pray for the soul of the deceased at a funeral, not canonize them. The Church declares Saints, not the survivors. I told my daughter not to dare let anyone get up at my funeral and start saying nice things about me. I said "tell them I expect each and every one of them to pray a rosary for me and to assume I am in purgatory until they hear otherwise." She really balked at that, so I told her I would write a letter to that effect that she can read at my funeral. Just think, I could evangelize post mortem.....would probably remind everyone there that they could be next and they better get to confession now!