(quote) Roystan-340472 said: I suppose one could say that if a funeral Mass is more about God than it is about the deceased, that the Mass is more to concentrate the minds of the living on the Living God, into whose hands it is a fearful thing to fall, than on the dead person who is the nominal centre of attention, then an obituary or eulogy should have the same purpose --- to concentrate the minds of the living, through the anecdote of the obituary or eulogy, on the Living God.
If God is the reason for your living, and God is the reason for your death, then something that is supposed to be an explanation or account of your life should, one would think, say something about the Reason for you.
Whatever Mike Hughes' religious beliefs might have been, this is essentially an atheistic obituary. It can't say much because it's not talking about the thing, or Person, that matters. It's not Mike Hughes' fault. A religious obituary is probably as much an art form as a stand-out ad copy. You can't write about a relationship with God five minutes before you die unless you know what that relationship has entailed, and that takes time, if not years. How did you come to know God? How did you stay with him? I guess the time to plan how you would like your obituary to read is now, if your obituary is to be a story of your relationship, through the permanent and passing people and events in your life, with your maker. Obituaries can be quite name-dropping, as this one is, and if God is family and friend, where is he? And, perhaps, he should feature in your obituary as your legacy to the cause of spreading his name to anyone who might have eyes to see and ears to hear. Like charity, you can't take it with you but you can send it ahead. And if you own up to being a disciple of Jesus as one of the last things you'll ever do in this life, perhaps Jesus will own up to you being his disciple as one of the first things he will do for you in the next.
Perhaps there were challenges in Mike Hughes' life. He mentions a Father Augustine as a boyhood mentor. But he also had a son predecease him, a son who had a gay partner who is included in the Hughes family as an honorary son-in-law. And Hughes himself, a lifelong non-smoker, was, he says, in another article on the Internet, felled by secondary smoke from his father's three pack a day smoking habit which the father came to hate but could not give up. So, essentially, at the relatively young age of 65, he was killed by his father, a thing he says the old man would have grieved had he not died earlier. That's two tragedies. But, in the long run, God can and will fix everything. So, rest in peace, Mike.
To write an obituary that should cover all your bases with humans and with God, will it take a think time of two weeks, or a lifetime and two weeks?
That was seriously good.