(quote) Ronald-937125 said: I think that a lot of men, never married, including me would like to have children who are in their 50's.....
I don't know, children who are in their 50's aren't nearly as cute as little ones and they're even less likely to do what you tell them. On the other hand, they're presumably housebroken :)
OK, I'm really writing because of Angela's comment about a lot of 'borderline bullying' in this thread. She makes some great points as usual, but I still think it's fair to ask 'why are you thinking of fatherhood now, after all these years (decades)? what stopped you before? do you see any downsides in being married to someone 20-35 years younger than yourself?' etc. Of course there may be Joseph-and-Mary instances where God leads a couple of widely divergent ages to marriage, but prudence being the first of the Christian virtues, I think it's fair and indeed necessary to ask these questions and some of the others that have been raised here. I am guessing that we're all open to the possibility where the answers are not prohibiive and the 50-year old marries the 30-year old and all is well. But it can't be wrong to ask the questions.
The other side of openmindedness, too, is that you may end up with someone who is older than the person in your ideal target age range. If one is going to argue 'people should be openminded enough to accept the possibility of my marrying a woman who is 25 years younger than me', it seems only fair to add 'and I'm openminded enough to accept the possibility of my marrying a woman who is seven years older than me'.