Kudos to Jerry & David for their responses. I think they both hold truth.
For me the grieving process was long and hard at the unexpected end of my marriage. There were a lot of whys and how could this happen. The first thing I did after I cried and talked with God, was to throw myself into my work. That helped immensely to deaden the pain and rebuild a wounded self esteem. I also did an executive MBA abroad in the first two years following the divorce. The grieving process served me well as far as my career.
After that came the difficult road to genuine forgiveness and wholeness. The annulment process helped with that.
The friends who stand with you through the process are more precious than gold and I will be forever grateful to them.