(quote) Michael-1071426 said: Diane - "I was just trying to point out that, just because one had an annulment,
that doesn't mean they don't know how to make a marriage successful as
the widowed supposedly does. Lots of times, people stay in bad
marriages until one of the spouses die."
That's an astute point Diane. I can attest to you all that being a baby boomer and looking at my parent's generation. I saw so many stay together even though the husbands were mean, cheaters, wife beaters or the wives were materialistic gold diggers nagging the husbands never had enough. Of course that was " Father Knows Best " era and all this was kept hush hush to us kids. I only found out later in life when the spouse had long passed away that in reality these marriages were living hell but kept together.
Bear this in mind; annulments are easier to get now. Last time I read the stats, back in 1959 there were only about 370 + or - granted by the church around the world in that year.. Now the average is about 67,000.
Michael I do not believe annulments are easier to get now than they used to be. I received an annulment and my priest told me that is a good thing because he said annulments are NOT EASY to get. I believe there are more annulments in the stats today rather than there used to be because there are more people getting divorced and applying for one. Years ago divorce was not as high as it is today.
In regard to widowers knowing how to have a happy marriage as apposed to divorced or annulled knowing what not to do in a marriage this statement is incorrect. Every marriage situation is different and a general statement like that is false. Unless you have been married, widowed, divorced or annulled you do not know. Having said that, my marriage was annulled and I can only speak of my situation and not one other persons.