What Christie said!!!!
I think this might be good advice. As I believe Victor pointed out here, would you ever in real life string along 30 women at a time? Maybe sometimes having too many options is not conducive to finding a soulmate. Whether consciously or unconsciously, a person could always be thinking that "well, he/she is really nice, but I don't know. Maybe someone better will come along next week and I will miss out." I mean, someone help me out here, because I have no idea, but I would venture to guess the ratio of women to me on this website is 3:1 at least, especially if you are talking about men who are free to marry right now.
There are times when I think that our modern idea of romance, love, chemistry, etc has been the cause of fewer marriages actually taking place. Everyone has this idea that they should be truly, madly, deeply in love right off the bat. Um, I don't think that is the case most of the time. Love grows and deepens the more you get to know a person. I think (my opinion only but I am fairly opinionated about this) that men and women who want a truly Catholic marriage, one built on faith, love, virtue, and in for the long haul, should focus on who that other person is at their core, what is the fruits of faith that you see in their lives, are they open, honest, giving, trustworthy. If you have children, can this person love your children as his/her own whether there is ever a piece of paper that makes it legal? Could you love their children as your own? Will this person help you get to Heaven? Can you help him/her get to Heaven?
Love does grow. I am not saying that you should marry someone for purely utilitarian reasons, that we shouldn't marry someone we love, but I am saying that our feelings can be really deceptive. I tell you what, if I left my late husband every time I no longer "felt" in love, we wouldn't have stayed married very long because after the first bloom of love fades, that is when you get into the nitty-gritty of who a person is at their very core. You know how businesses are constantly talking about the importance of core values and beliefs? I think that is a pretty good model to follow when you are dating and trying to find a soulmate.