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Apr 13th 2014 new
Katie - "Hahahaha!! Connie you are silly. :-) Personally, I think it's a man's nature to be possessive, and I like that. Some healthy jealousy is cool too. Just nothing that hurts either of us. Controlling types don't like me much. LOL.

Well be all that as it may Katie I guess I could call myself a man whether possosive or not since I have the right kind of plumbing that defines a man wouldn't you think?
Apr 13th 2014 new
(quote) Michele-1074439 said: "Addiction,..." and porn.
Good point, either of those can be incredibly destructive to a relationship....
Apr 13th 2014 new
(quote) Lauren-927923 said: Jerry,

Could you or Charles repost the characterstics of a gentleman or send it to me via PM?
Sure can.

Without a strict observance of the fundamental Code of Honor, no man, no matter how `polished, can be considered a gentleman. The honor of a gentleman demands the inviolability of his word, and the incorruptibility of his principles. He is the descendant of the knight, the crusader; he is the defender of the defenseless and the champion of justice . . . or he is not a Gentleman.

A Gentleman . . .
Does not discuss his family affairs in public or with acquaintances.

Does not speak more than casually about his girl friend.

Does not go to a ladys house if he is affected by alcohol. He is temperate in the use of alcohol.

Does not lose his temper; nor exhibit anger, fear, hate, embarrassment, ardor or hilarity in public.

Does not hail a lady from a club window.

A gentleman never discusses the merits or demerits of a lady.

Does not mention names exactly as he avoids the mention of what things cost.

Does not borrow money from a friend, except in dire need. Money borrowed is a debt of honor, and must be repaid as promptly as possible. Debts incurred by a deceased parent, brother, sister or grown child are assumed by honorable men as a debt of honor.

Does not display his wealth, money or possessions.

Does not put his manners on and off, whether in the club or in a ballroom. He treats people with courtesy, no matter what their social position may be.

Does not slap strangers on the back nor so much as lay a finger on a lady.

Does not `lick the boots of those above nor `kick the face of those below him on the social ladder.

Does not take advantage of anothers helplessness or ignorance and assumes that no gentleman will take advantage of him.

A Gentleman respects the reserves of others, but demands that others respect those which are his.

A Gentleman can become what he wills to be. . .

Apr 13th 2014 new
(quote) Lauren-927923 said: Jerry,

Could you or Charles repost the characterstics of a gentleman or send it to me via PM?
Sure can.

Without a strict observance of the fundamental Code of Honor, no man, no matter how `polished, can be considered a gentleman. The honor of a gentleman demands the inviolability of his word, and the incorruptibility of his principles. He is the descendant of the knight, the crusader; he is the defender of the defenseless and the champion of justice . . . or he is not a Gentleman.

A Gentleman . . .
Does not discuss his family affairs in public or with acquaintances.

Does not speak more than casually about his girl friend.

Does not go to a ladys house if he is affected by alcohol. He is temperate in the use of alcohol.

Does not lose his temper; nor exhibit anger, fear, hate, embarrassment, ardor or hilarity in public.

Does not hail a lady from a club window.

A gentleman never discusses the merits or demerits of a lady.

Does not mention names exactly as he avoids the mention of what things cost.

Does not borrow money from a friend, except in dire need. Money borrowed is a debt of honor, and must be repaid as promptly as possible. Debts incurred by a deceased parent, brother, sister or grown child are assumed by honorable men as a debt of honor.

Does not display his wealth, money or possessions.

Does not put his manners on and off, whether in the club or in a ballroom. He treats people with courtesy, no matter what their social position may be.

Does not slap strangers on the back nor so much as lay a finger on a lady.

Does not `lick the boots of those above nor `kick the face of those below him on the social ladder.

Does not take advantage of anothers helplessness or ignorance and assumes that no gentleman will take advantage of him.

A Gentleman respects the reserves of others, but demands that others respect those which are his.

A Gentleman can become what he wills to be. . .

Apr 14th 2014 new
Thank you Charles. This is beautiful. Is this the code from VMI as in Virginia Military Academy? It has a very Victorian Era read about it. I did some extensive research several years back on Victorian etiquette and morals and practices and VMI was one that I did some research on -- it was for a book. I love the material from that time period for both men and women and for a long time I had a link to a reference for a book on the Parental code which was actually quite sound. I may have to dig those references up again :-).

Again, thank you for reposting this. Lauren
Apr 14th 2014 new
I agree. Needy and clingy are real turn-offs.
Apr 14th 2014 new
Cold sores are definitely unattractive. If only people had a choice to not have them.
Apr 14th 2014 new
That is hilarious!
Apr 14th 2014 new
L-Lysine for cold sores ... check it out ....
Apr 14th 2014 new
(quote) Lauren-927923 said: Aside from the big ones mentioned here: abusive (in any form), drug addiction or alcoholism., I would have to say,

Someone who is ugly to others and lacks a spirit of generosity in their dealings with other people. And, by generosity I don't mean monetarily, I mean in graciousness and kindness and acceptance of others.
I agree. My friend had a great observation: Kind is the new sexy. I couldn't agree more.
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