Leo....it is sometimes a thankless task....I know, but in the end....you will be glad you did it.
For me (and I took care of both in their last 3 years) it provided closure faster than most of my siblings.
And I have told several CMers this who are currently taking care of their loved ones.
I never thought it became real easy...but it DID become a sort-of "labor of love"
One day my Mom looked at me....and said, "God will reward you for this" and I never forgot it. Course I made her promise to "kick a back door open" for me in heaven!! I kept thinking of those words and from that point on...I didn't worry about it as much. Even with a "cranky" Father at times!
(I think most of that was he wanted to feel needed...plus he was suffering too.).
I won't EVER say it was easy. I lost a business during this time too. But will I say I would do again? OF COURSE...OVER AND OVER!!!
And after my Mom passed away....and I was charged with taking care of my Dad...the reward was great. We got along the best we ever had. He became my best friend!
All I kept thinking of was this: "They took care of me for all those years....why not return the favor?"