Like Joseph, when I first joined CM...the first week or two...I "missed" a few. CM was my first experience with any internet social site, and...as strange as it may seem for a guy to say it...the whole scope of the thing kinda overwhelmed me at first. I mean, suddenly, here are some messages from far off ladies..."what does this mean?", I wondered...I had thought all this stuff was supposed to be about finding someone nearby.
But, the whole thing forced me to grow up a bit from that. I now often tell people IRL that the most amazing thing about this online "dating-site" or "social-site" stuff is that...if you look at it from what IMHO is the "right" perspective...it forces you to grow up in the way you relate to other people...especially, people of the opposite gender...and, most especially, people of the opposite gender who have shown some interest in you. And, by "forces you to grow up", I mean it asks you to act accountably toward others...accountable to them and to yourself about the interest they shown in you. And, by simply ignoring personal messages...well, I have come to see it as a way off ducking out of being accountable to others...and to yourself.
Think it goofy if you will. But, I have come to regard any pleasant words of personal interest directed my way from another... even if the she happens to remind me a bit of Mayberry's Aunt Bea... as a personal gift from God, and to be treated as such.
Look, folks, I was pretty blunt in that last post. I know the "Non-responders" are not consciously trying to be rude. It's how they handle it all.
But, I think they're wrong. Not in wrong in morals, but wrong in thinking.
It's not about the "rejection" at all...it's about the acceptance...acceptance of a gift, whether it's the gift you wanted or not. You are NOT being asked to "want" it back. You ARE being asked if you know a gift when you see one, though