Whether either party to these December-May marriages is showing good judgement is a separate question. ;-) Certainly some of these people have been married several times. Joan Collins is on her fifth husband.
I have been toying with writing about marriage from the standpoint of an economist (which I am not). The idea is that everybody has a "market value" not necessarily in terms of money, but in terms of youth and attractiveness, and yes, wealth. If you approach someone who is much younger or more attractive than you are, you are not likely to be successful. Certainly we hear women complain that the men who contact them are ten or fifteen or even twenty years older than they are.
Those of you who think that social study statistics are fascinating may want to look at this page. OK cupid compiled some very interesting statistics relative to who people contact, in terms of age.
I had a personal reminder of the dating market situation. I teach the homeless, and occasionally I am befriended by one of them. One man said that his homelessness resulted from a kind of crazy lady he was with. I suggested that he look for a better class of women. He pointed out that women with anything going for them are not going to be interested in someone without money. From his standpoint, his lack of money meant that he was stuck with bottom of the barrel women, including crazy women.
Is any of this fair, just, or reasonable? Of course not, but that does not mean that it is not happening.
when I started dating, I looked for guys my own age although that mindset wasn't set in gold. I dated a guy who was 3 years older than me when I was 17. The next one was 2 years older then the last was my age. I ended up marrying the guy who was my age.
after the divorce:
I dated men my age and one 8 years younger. I got along well with the 8 year younger guy even though our tastes in music were varied among other interests. I dated him for as long as I was married, 7 1/2 years.
On Cm my age range goes from ages 58 to 62...that is not set in gold either. My theory is when dating you should at least have some things in common.
what are your feelings on this subject? I'm interested in learning how others here feel toward the dating range.
thank you in advance for participating!