We just kind of got used to the idea that I was basically the same age as most of her children. I don't imagine that too many people have a stepchild that close to them in age.
The drawback to that was as I crept up in age, it almost seemed like he never had a birthday. He started making comments on my birthdays like, How OLD are you now? I reacted like that was an insult. He kept referring to me as his mother's age by then. yeah, we broke up soon after all of that started. no one likes to be insulted, even if it was done in fun.
Whether either party to these December-May marriages is showing good judgement is a separate question. ;-) Certainly some of these people have been married several times. Joan Collins is on her fifth husband.
I have been toying with writing about marriage from the standpoint of an economist (which I am not). The idea is that everybody has a "market value" not necessarily in terms of money, but in terms of youth and attractiveness, and yes, wealth. If you approach someone who is much younger or more attractive than you are, you are not likely to be successful. Certainly we hear women complain that the men who contact them are ten or fifteen or even twenty years older than they are.
Those of you who think that social study statistics are fascinating may want to look at this page. OK cupid compiled some very interesting statistics relative to who people contact, in terms of age.
I had a personal reminder of the dating market situation. I teach the homeless, and occasionally I am befriended by one of them. One man said that his homelessness resulted from a kind of crazy lady he was with. I suggested that he look for a better class of women. He pointed out that women with anything going for them are not going to be interested in someone without money. From his standpoint, his lack of money meant that he was stuck with bottom of the barrel women, including crazy women.
Is any of this fair, just, or reasonable? Of course not, but that does not mean that it is not happening.
Why do you think Donald Trump, Alan Greenspan, and Larry King are married to these young attractive women? Of course the answer is simple: ego. Why do you think these young attractive women are married to these old goats? Of course the answer is simple: money.