This article is the second in a four-part series dealing with the
dating challenges faced by those of different temperaments. It is
intended as a more detailed supplement to the brief suggestions given
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Remember Tigger from Winnie the Pooh? Tiggers are wonderful things! Their tops are made out of rubber; their bottoms are made out of springs! They're bouncy, trouncy, flouncy, pouncy…..Fun, fun, fun, fun, fun!
Tigger is a classic sanguine.
Not too long ago, my husband and I went out to eat with a sanguine friend. It was like being in the entourage of a famous athlete or politician. He knew everyone. We weren’t waiting for two minutes before the owner of the restaurant came over to greet us and to offer us a special table. Friends called and waved from across the bar. We were introduced to several other couples. Someone bought us a drink.
This is what happens when you are in the company of a charismatic sanguine.
Your sanguine date is lively, enthusiastic, and approachable. Sanguines are generous, confident, and easy to get to know. If you are naturally quiet or struggle to carry on a conversation, this can be a real blessing on a first date! Sanguines have the natural ability to convey—and even to transmit—emotion. Not only are they more naturally expressive, but when you listen to them, you begin to feel the same way they do! Their enthusiasm is contagious, and their personalities persuasive. They excel at sales, politics, public relations, and acting.
Sanguines are talkative, fun-loving, and optimistic. Your sanguine date (like Tigger) is always up for something new and exciting. He loves a spur-of-the-moment adventure—whether traveling to a new city, meeting new people, or discovering a new idea. Sanguines live in the present moment, and enjoy it to the fullest! Your sanguine date may surprise you with a spontaneous trip to the beach in November or whisk you off to go ski-diving. When you are in the company of a sanguine, he pours out his charm upon you, and makes you feel as though you are on top of the world.
When the going gets tough, the sanguines go…shopping. Or out to eat. Their weakness is that they have short attention spans. They are enthusiastic, spontaneous, and somewhat forgetful. Out of sight, out of mind…but in a good way!
Sanguines just want to be loved (that’s why they are standing on the table wearing the lampshade!) They want to be happy, and they want you to be happy with them. If you are dating a sanguine, be sure to join in enthusiastically with his activities and ideas. Above all, don’t be a stick-in-the-mud. Keep your sanguine partner interested by changing things up now and then. Sanguines do not do boring.
On the down side, sanguines can be impulsive, attention-seeking, scattered and forgetful. They always prefer something new to the same old, same old (especially those boring details like office paperwork, balancing the check book or cleaning the house). Sanguines are restless and easily bored. They crave excitement, fun, and action. If you are dating a sanguine, try not to be a wet blanket. Your sanguine date may come up with exciting new plans and adventures, but may not have the perseverance or attention to detail to carry them out. Sanguines will do well to practice the virtues of temperance and self-control, and they should be cautious about superficial attraction, the emotionality of the moment, and a temptation to vanity.
Your sanguine date can be demonstrative and sensual, but also can move quickly from hot to cold. He can be warm and generous, emotional and impetuous…but then, in a flash, just the opposite. Both male and female sanguines can unintentionally mislead with their innocently flirtatious and open manner. But sanguines have big hearts and embrace life with gusto. They look on the bright side of life, and are always ready for an adventure. If you can keep up (and get a word in edgewise) you will enjoy dating this naturally generous, compassionate, and joyful person.