The moment I stepped into the wedding dress that I would ultimately call my own, I immediately knew. It was one of those movie moments when the clouds part and the angels sing. I wouldn’t try on even one more dress because this was the one.
Oh, if only the signs were that loud and clear when choosing a spouse, right?
Here’s how it worked for me.
Was I expecting to find my husband when I went on ABC’s “The Bachelor”? Definitely not. After meeting Jason and spending time with him on the show, did I know right away that he was the one? Definitely not. Did I truly want Jason to propose to me that last day of filming? Definitely not. Did I want Jason to dump me that last day of filming? Definitely not.
Did I simply want to start dating in the real world – without cameras? Definitely.
I’m not going to pretend that I didn’t get wrapped up in “The Bachelor” bubble while filming. I told Jason that I loved him, wanted to marry him, and live happily ever after…all in a matter of six weeks.
Well, that is an entirely different blog post. For the sake of time and honesty, I’ll say that I did know I liked Jason enough to want to explore a relationship with him after the show. And as much as I did get carried away in the roses and romance, I also knew I needed to see the real Jason – without cameras – before making any major life decisions.
Sometimes when we’re younger we think about what kind of person we want to marry. We often list things like looks, interests, and financial success.
On paper Jason was exactly this. He was my perfect guy: handsome, successful, and kind hearted. While all of those things are great, they weren’t the reasons that made Jason the one for me.
It wasn’t until after we finished filming “The Bachelor” that I learned what Jason was really about. I got an up-close-and-personal look at what an incredible father he is. I realized Jason would give the shirt off his back for someone in need and he has a passion for life that I had never seen in a person before.
As time went on, as in any relationship, I learned more and more about Jason. Most notably, I recognized that we are incredibly different! He is easy going, where I am a stress case! He loves to get out and be active, where I would rather chill out on the couch. I am all things girly and he is all things sports.
It is because of our differences, however, that we work so well together. Jason challenges me, and we pull each other in the right direction. He adds value to my life and he makes me a better person every single day.
The circumstances of how Jason and I started dating are certainly one for the books, but that, in no way, had an impact on our decision to get married. We didn’t get married because America wanted us to and we didn’t get married because it was the next natural step. The bond that Jason and I share is unique – unlike anything I have ever experienced. There is a sense of oneness and a feeling of strength with him.
I know that together, with Jason, I can be everything I was meant to be. I know that whatever gifts are given to both of us, we are meant to use them together for some greater purpose.
We have a unity that can’t adequately be explained, only felt – and this is what makes Jason the one for me.