It’s easy to set limits on the search for a mate – from height to age to education to politics – but before the year draws to a close, I urge you to cast a wider net.
At least once.
You may be missing someone, even The One, by restricting your member search, and you owe it to yourself to launch a broader one.
Carve out an hour one cold December night, make a cup of coffee and pour over a criteria-lifted hunt. Get rid of your biases and preferences. Search for someone a few years older. A few inches shorter. Someone who’s more health conscious or less, someone who wants more kids or fewer, someone who votes differently or prays differently. And try one search – I dare you – with no geographic restriction.
Then open your mind and start scrolling. See who pops up. Look for a profile that piques your interest, that makes you tilt your head or crack a smile.
Take your time. It’s not a speed search, just a chance to take in a bunch of new profiles.
And here’s one more tip: Bring in a fishing partner. Guys, ask a sister, a close girl friend or a female cousin who’s in town for Christmas to pull up a chair and play armchair quarterback. Ladies, chances are your best friend would be utterly honored to sit by your side and do a little color commentary.
You can go back to your usual criteria soon. I promise. But don’t let 2010 – and all its hopes and promises – come to an end before you’ve cast a wider CatholicMatch search.