There are a lot of ways to initiate contact with someone on CatholicMatch. One rule of thumb is that it’s generally a good idea to avoid flubbing the person’s name. Rick misfired on that when he first contacted Cynthia. But the woman who described herself as “loving all expression of human intelligence,” proved to love even this one and it started a path for the 50-something couple from Georgia to share their lives together.
Cynthia got an e-mail promotion from CatholicMatch and it was more curiosity than real interest that resulted in her opening it. It wasn’t so much an antipathy to online dating, but she didn’t think of the Church as the vehicle for helping her to meet the right person. But when she checked out the website, she was convinced it was “the perfect way to relate to people with my own principles.”
“Wow, who is this man that changed my name?,” she thought, when she got her first message from Rick. Upon writing a response, another message came from him with big headline “SORRY!”. Rick showed an engaging sense of humor in explaining his mistake and that’s something Cynthia has always found attractive.
They soon began to exchange messages on deeper topics and found a common bond. Four months after the initial contact they got married and feel the hand of God in their marriage together.
On other side of the country, Richard and Karen are another couple who have found what they were looking for. Both had gone through the painful experience of seeing long first marriages end in divorce. The man from Arizona and the woman from Nevada saw each other representing the healing power of God. They both believe deeply in marriage and are moving forward on a new life together.
The stories of Cynthia and Rick, along with Richard and Karen, have lessons to teach. The first is that the stereotype of online dating being for the “online generation” is just that—a stereotype that was no hindrance to these four, whose ages range from 50 to 63. They teach the importance of leaving past hurts behind. And they show the importance of a sense of humor in relating to others.