Adrienne was getting ready to finish college and was an unlikely candidate for a long-distance relationship. She was deeply skeptical about the whole idea of online dating. “I mean come on…I’m young and not desperate, why would I do this?” she pondered. But it didn’t stop here from signing up for CatholicMatch on a whim.
This was in the fall of 2007, when she got a message from a man in the United Kingdom. With 5,000 miles and the Atlantic Ocean separating them, Adrienne didn’t have a lot of interest in Matt. But he was handsome and it seemed impolite not to at least reply.
A polite response mushroomed into constant messages and daily chats. Even with all the communication it didn’t seem like romance was in the equation.
“We talked about anything and everything, but honestly…we were in two totally different places,” she recalled.
Shortly after the New Year in 2008, Matt came to the United States, and it seemed a waste not to take at least a few days to meet with Adrienne. So she drove from Houston to Oklahoma, where she met him. Before he left, he asked her if she wanted to take a chance on a relationship.
“I couldn’t help but say yes,” she told CatholicMatch. “I just had this feeling that this could be a wonderful thing.”
This “wonderful thing” led Adrienne to take a teaching a job in England after graduation. It seemed a dream come true — she loved her job and had a great Catholic boyfriend. But the dream went awry, they broke up and she returned to the U.S.
Even though their relationship had ground to a halt, they didn’t stop caring about each other. After six months apart, they began to communicate again. And in the summer of 2010, they got back together as a couple, traveling across the pond to see each other and sharing adventures together.
This past month, Matt came to visit here in Houston, but frustrated his girlfriend in not allowing her to plan a fun weekend for them. As it turned out he had his own plans, which included a weekend in Oklahoma at the hotel where they first met. At dinner, he proposed marriage and she said yes.
Adrienne looks back on the work on long-distance relationship took as a good thing. “It definitely stripped us of any sense of ease and comfort…and I think it also taught us to see the beauty of normal things together…going to Mass…cooking dinner.”
And that original skepticism of online dating? “To me, the worst-case scenario was that I would spend $25 and maybe meet some more young Catholic people, and in the best-case scenario, I could find my husband. When I thought about it that way, it seemed like a win-win.”
Indeed, Adrienne, Matt and all the lives they touch are winners.