Ohio to Alabama is a long way to keep up a long-distance relationship from, but other couples have done it and from further distances. Tom and Anne are another success who has joined their ranks, thanks to the basic CatholicMatch formula of connecting on what Anne called the basis of “faith in God, family values and similar interests.”
Anne had met her share of discouragement dating in the secular world. After a while dating men who didn’t share her beliefs and faith in God just became wearisome. When a Catholic trying to be faithful is dating someone who doesn’t share either that faith or that commitment, it leaves one in a constant state of struggle—what can I compromise in, what’s a deal-breaker? When am I being too picky, when I am in danger of just “settling?”
The questions are asked in every relationship and on a wide array of subjects but none that cut closer to the bone than the question of Faith itself. And finding Tom and feeling a real connection brought refreshment to Anne.
They spent about two months getting to know each other online. He made the trip to Cincinnati for a visit. Anne was still apprehensive—“I didn’t know what to expect because I had never met someone this way nor dated someone long distance,” she told CatholicMatch.
It didn’t take long for her nervousness to disappear. She saw that Tom was everything she had waited for in a spouse—that special moment when someone appears and you simply know deep down that this is the walking personification of who you’ve hoped for.
Anne and Tom’s relationship went smoothly and they saw the benefits that come from long-distance dating. They had to learn to talk to each other, lest their phone conversations be filled with long uncomfortable silences. The fact that conversation—indeed the relationship itself—went so smoothly had a reason.
“It was easy because it was right,” Anne said with conviction.
The interactions with each other may have been easy, but even allowing the unexpected benefits of long distance, they both still saw the physical gap separating them as a grind. They carved out time and money each month to visit each other.
After seven months, Tom proposed and Anne accepted. And two more dreams had come true.