I have been an official CatholicMatch member for nearly two weeks now, and I can already see why this site has served as the catalyst for so many successful, Christ-centered relationships. From the emotigrams to the online forums to the chat feature, these tools help us single Catholics interact with each other in new and interesting ways, all in hopes of finding a match!
In my short time on this site, I have already taken advantage of many of these tools. I have browsed through the profiles of nearly all of my matches. I’ve sent emotigrams. I’ve sent personal messages. I’ve even been on the receiving end of a few chats.
So now I’m left with a plethora of matches and just as many questions. I need you, my fellow CatholicMatchers, to offer your honest opinions on my top 5 questions:
1. Just a glance
In my first week on CatholicMatch, I had more than 100 profile views but only a handful of emotigrams and messages. Clearly, the vast majority of guys decided not to make a move – what gives? Are they not interested or just too shy?
2. About those emotigrams
I have to be honest: The emotigrams feature reminds me of my junior high instant messaging days, but I can see how a simple smiley face is less intimidating to send than a personal message. But what do guys think of this feature? Is an emotigram welcomed or just ignored?
3. The back and forth
I’ve been lucky enough to start several message strings with great people on this site, and I can already tell that these “conversations” may lead to a future in-person meeting. When is it acceptable to suggest a face-to-face date? Am I expected to sit back and wait for him to make the move?
4. The unexpected greeting
We all complete our profiles with our thoughts on long-distance relationships and relocating, so why do some people from across the country send an emotigram or message when their own profile states they only want to date someone within driving distance? There appears to be some sort of disconnect.
5. You’re nice, but…
Whether in person or online, I still struggle with letting another person down by saying, “Thanks, but no thanks.” If you’re not seeing a future with a member who continues to pursue you, what’s the best way to convey this message without being too harsh?
Thank you, in advance, for your feedback! Just like anything in life, I understand that you only get as much as you put into it. So bear with me as I work through these questions and strive to use every resource available to me in my quest for Mr. Right.
And as always, don’t be afraid to shoot me a message. After all, we’re all on this site for the same reason, right?