Robyn Lee is the resident single gal among the Mom bloggers over at Faith & Family, and she serves an important role. While we’re on the subject of break-ups today, I felt compelled to share her reflection on a painful split. Here’s an excerpt:
I know intellectually that this break-up was the right decision, and it will only make me stronger (blah, blah … sounds like the adults in the Charlie Brown cartoon).
But my heart hurts.
The idea of going back into the dating scene makes me want to become a hermit. All that insecurity. All that awkwardness. Ick.
I have a lot of fear and anxiety about the future. What if God wants me to be single for the rest of my life? Maybe there won’t be anyone else? I don’t want to be alone!
I told my spiritual director that my heart felt so empty. He told me to be patient with my heart and give it time to heal. He then pointed to the cross and said, “then fill it with him. With God’s love in your heart, there can be no room for fear and anxiety.”
Amidst the tears, the heartache and the worry I hear the strong Feet that follow “with unhurrying chase, And unperturbed pace” and I hear the Voice tell me “All which I took from thee I did but take, Not for thy harms, But just that thou might’st seek it in My arms.”
Yes, break ups stink and doing God’s will hurts sometimes. But only by breaking up can you move towards God’s plan.
I’m not sure what God has in store for me, but I am ready for the journey. In the meantime, I feel comfort knowing that I am pursued by the Hound of Heaven. His love is transforming, lasting and He will never break my heart.
Isn’t that lovely?
And to date, there are 26 interesting comments to peruse, some offering general advice for the brokenhearted, others personally encouraging Robyn.
- “The Case For Messy, Gut-Wrenching Break-Ups“
- “Straight Talk From A Widow On Baggage & Break-Ups“
- “After The Break-Up: 7 Rules For Dating Myself (With Video)“