Robyn Lee: ‘I Don’t Want To Be Alone!’


Robyn is a 30-something single Catholic from Connecticut

Robyn Lee is the resident single gal among the Mom bloggers over at Faith & Family, and she serves an important role. While we’re on the subject of break-ups today, I felt compelled to share her reflection on a painful split. Here’s an excerpt:

I know intellectually that this break-up was the right decision, and it will only make me stronger (blah, blah … sounds like the adults in the Charlie Brown cartoon).

But my heart hurts.

The idea of going back into the dating scene makes me want to become a hermit. All that insecurity. All that awkwardness. Ick.

I have a lot of fear and anxiety about the future. What if God wants me to be single for the rest of my life? Maybe there won’t be anyone else? I don’t want to be alone!

I told my spiritual director that my heart felt so empty. He told me to be patient with my heart and give it time to heal. He then pointed to the cross and said, “then fill it with him. With God’s love in your heart, there can be no room for fear and anxiety.”

Amidst the tears, the heartache and the worry I hear the strong Feet that follow “with unhurrying chase, And unperturbed pace” and I hear the Voice tell me “All which I took from thee I did but take, Not for thy harms, But just that thou might’st seek it in My arms.”

Yes, break ups stink and doing God’s will hurts sometimes. But only by breaking up can you move towards God’s plan.

I’m not sure what God has in store for me, but I am ready for the journey. In the meantime, I feel comfort knowing that I am pursued by the Hound of Heaven. His love is transforming, lasting and He will never break my heart.

Isn’t that lovely?

And to date, there are 26 interesting comments to peruse, some offering general advice for the brokenhearted, others personally encouraging Robyn.



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  1. Stephen-725391 January 6, 2012 Reply

    Well, do you feel the same for a man?

  2. Jim-397948 January 8, 2012 Reply

    Maybe you should enjoy your hopes…I meet a let of friendly women through sailing and running!!!

  3. Jim-397948 January 8, 2012 Reply

    Enjoy your hobbies!!!!

  4. Lee-811092 January 8, 2012 Reply

    keep ya head up

  5. Nigel-748943 January 9, 2012 Reply

    Dear Robyn, Persevere in trusting in God. God works wonders for His sons and daughters who confide in Him, and depend on Him.

    God bless you with good health, happiness, peace, and prosperity.


  6. Nigel-748943 January 9, 2012 Reply

    Dear Robyn, I would love to be your friend.

  7. Catalina-674504 January 9, 2012 Reply

    Think we’ve all been there, at one point in life. Love all the comments. Mourn the loss, heal one’s heart through God’s Grace, yet do not forget the beautiful you within & out. ~ Catalina

  8. Elizabeth-753085 January 15, 2012 Reply

    Just what I needed to read…it occured to me today, I may be least in that way forever!
    so why, what’s wrong with me or better what is wrong with the others..does God really want that for me? instead I keep focus and follow the path with all the things he calls me to do and plough through and keep praying. I pray to make the right decisions in everything and in matters of the heart. patience is hard when you want it to all to come together that it can be a bit overwhelming!
    That is when you pray to feel the ever present Holy Spirit ..God Bless us all. God did not mean for us to be alone.

    • Sheila-813882 January 16, 2012 Reply

      I agree….. in the bible, God saw how after everything he created was good but, there still was something missing, and God then created woman for man…I too am alone now, it has been two years, I will keep seeking God’s will for my life, but also praying he sends me someone special to live out the rest of my life with. Keep the Faith and keeping trusting and praying, God’s will be done in our life, He alone holds the future. God Bless

  9. Stacey-101742 January 16, 2012 Reply

    This sounds like something I said a long while back , =) I personally focused on my job, helping with charity , enjoying my family , and try to make time to enjoy photography, or taking a day trip to get out of the day to day grind, and enjoy Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament and my prayer life , reading , and allow the time for God to prepare me. Over time , I feel God more and fell less alone . Patience isn’t easy . Trust in God and He won’t break your heart . so true !

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