On a recent Saturday morning I was reunited with a former college roommate, Melissa, near our alma mater. Our cozy coffee date quickly turned into a brisk walk through the campus that still felt familiar two years later.
As we walked into the lower quad through our campus’ iconic archway, we mentally walked back in time to a year in our lives in which we called a small concrete box (otherwise known as a dorm room) home. We not only reminisced about Saturday football games and dinners in the caf, but about the quiet moments spent studying, talking and anticipating the future. Much had changed on campus in the years since we shifted our tassels from the right to the left, but the memories remained intact.
“It was a big year for both us, you know,” Melissa said matter-of-factly as we made our way further into campus.
It was in our second year of undergrad that I broke up with the boyfriend who I believed would say “I do” to me at the university chapel after graduation. I was also deep into my grief journey, and Melissa had her own challenges that year as well. Neither of us could have known how those experiences would play into who we are today as 20-something faith-filled women. All of these years later, we can see how each of those moments pieced together to create a web of life experiences. We’re independent, strong and resilient because of those trying seasons.
Steve Jobs spoke about this concept in his often-quoted 2005 Stanford commencement address:
“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”
As Catholic singles, we have to trust that today’s experiences will one day be yesterday’s changing moments. We have to believe that today will make more sense tomorrow and that each heartbreak is molding our hearts into the shape it is meant to be.
In the Psalms, David writes, “All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.”
Whether you’re looking back or looking forward, know that the dots in each of our lives have already been connected. Today’s moments are tomorrow’s memories that have been connected all along.
Check out Jessica’s reflection “Back In The Same Chapel One Year Later“