We journey through life along a path riddled with excuses – excuses about our physical health, our eating habits, our Mass attendance, our work commitments and, most often, our dating lives.
“I’m just not ready.”
“I’m still not over my last significant other.”
And the real clinker:
“I don’t have enough time.”
Excuses, excuses, excuses.
Funny how we make time for other important aspects of our lives but let our search for Mr. or Mrs. Right fall to the wayside when our schedules are overflowing. Fellow CatholicMatch blogger Christina Mahady has faced this challenge first-hand:
“I like to think that I usually have a good handle on the whole work-life balancing act. I try to make time for my family, to go and get my nails done, and to watch a bit of mindless television to decompress. But if my dating life is any reflection, I’m clearing not making enough time or trying hard enough to do so,” she wrote in a blog post.
I, too, know how difficult it can be to date when you’re running from work functions to family dinners to the grocery store. My boyfriend and I have demanding jobs that include monthly travel, and we both have friends and family that we see on a regular basis, making our time together that more treasured. We’ve learned to make the most of our time together, while maintaining the independence we both value.
So I get it, you’re busy, but that’s no excuse for dismissing dating prospects. You’re already on CatholicMatch, so ask one of your matches to join you on one of the below dates that I guarantee you can work into your busy schedule.
- Go to happy hour or dinner or lunch or breakfast
You have to eat, right? Well so does the opposite sex, so plan a date over a customary meal hour. Even if it’s only an hour-long lunch, you may already know if this potential relationship is capable of blossoming.
- Mass & a warm cup of coffee
Faith is a key component of all relationships that begin on CatholicMatch, so meet on a spiritual level by attending Mass together and then visiting over a cup of coffee. You’ll be meeting your Sunday obligation and maybe even your match!
- Take a walk or meet at the gym
We all know how important it is to live an active lifestyle, so combine one of your regular workouts with a date. Take a brisk walk around a nearby lake or if you’re really confident, invite your date to meet you at the gym.
In addition, you could volunteer, make dinner or even run errands together. The truth is, you have time for dating even in the most mundane parts of your day. When you eventually say “I do,” you’re accepting a lifetime of exciting moments, as well as the day-to-day memories that truly sustain a marriage. Prepare for that time in your life by choosing to fit dating into the life you lead now.
Find time for love and love will find time for you.