We’ve all heard that cliche’: “Let your attitude determine your altitude.” Sometimes these stock answers to difficulties we are going through in life can seem trite and rather insulting. If it’s so difficult to begin with, how can someone else make it sound so easy to overcome? This is often what people who go through a divorce and work hard to rebuild their lives experience when they encounter others who have never been divorced and dispense advice they think is helpful.
One of the great truths of life is that there will be suffering and at some point or another, everyone encounters difficulty. Hearing things like “just get over it!” or “just accept that this is your life now and it will be easier to start moving forward” are easy to comprehend in thought, yet they are difficult to accept in your heart.
Acceptance is a first step – a necessary step – in rebuilding your life and one that should not be taken lightly. It truly is a process. But there are things that can make the work of acceptance a little easier… first, offering your suffering for others who need your prayers; second, understanding that God has chosen you to participate in His work of salvation through your offering of pain; and third, that God is lovingly tending to your soul as you work through all these things. Understanding these things can indeed make your burden easier to bear, knowing you are a vine that will bear much good fruit.
I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. – John 5:15