A friend of mine recently revealed the agony of his court appearance to finalize his divorce. During the proceedings, he acknowledged that he had allowed his older children to receive the sacrament of confirmation. This angered his ex-wife tremendously. Amidst all the rest of the haggling over custody and property, the judge awarded him with 30 hours of community service to make amends for this “offense.” He felt completely humiliated for doing what he knew was right… being a good father and a faithful Catholic.
The depths of suffering due to divorce can hardly be described. But I encourage you to look at your suffering through God’s eyes… God allows us to endure humiliations so we can understand the humiliation He endured for our salvation… He allows us to be stripped of things that are precious to us so we can focus on Him more clearly and intently. There’s abundant grace and abundant virtue in each of your sufferings. The saints suffered many devastating humiliations but were not deterred in their pursuit of holiness. They knew the one thing that could never be taken from them was Christ and their reward was eternal life in heaven. You may not feel like a saint, but know that these crosses you bear are your path to holiness and your fidelity pleases God so much!
But blessed is the one who trusts in the LORD, whose confidence is in him. They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit. – Jeremiah 17: 7-8