Do you remember the saying we used as children?”Sticks and stone can break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” I’m not so sure that I agree.
Our words have awesome power. They have the power to heal, the power to encourage, the power to comfort. They also have the power to hurt. With just a few cruel or thoughtless words, we can inflict painful and sometimes mortal wounds. No wonder the Book of Proverbs speaks so much about the use of the tongue.
As you navigate through your separation and divorce, and during the months and years afterwards, how will you use your words? Will you use them to create an atmosphere of peace and love? Or will you use them to create confusion and doubt? Will you use them to build others up? Or to tear them down? Remember, once you speak words, they are “out there”; there’s no taking them back. Nor can you undo the damage that they may have done.
Think about how you use your words. Do you use them wisely and use them for good? Are they timely and well chosen? Do you exercise restraint when things are better left unsaid or a response is better off not given? Do you use your words to please God by being gracious and gentle? When you speak, are you an instrument of God’s grace?
Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. – Colossians 4:5-6