Security… what does that mean to you? For many people, security is equal to large amounts of possessions, a nice home, savings in the bank, and happy relationships. And there is nothing wrong with feeling secure because you have a nice home, money in the bank, the freedom to purchase at will, and a happy family. These things make us feel safe, content, snug… and for some of us, even smug. I was smug before my divorce happened. I believed that divorced people, especially Catholics, were failures and “bad Catholics.” But when it suddenly happened to me, my perspective changed completely. But it’s precisely at this point, when the worst happens and you begin seeing yourself stripped of the things you love that something very good will happen… if you allow it.
Divorce is humiliating; degrading. What, you might ask, can be good then about having the things you love stripped away? Well, it’s not good, unless it’s coupled with the desire to become holy. So many times in my life, I have lost things… reputation, money, friendships, my home, my marriage… and they’ve all been very painful events. It wasn’t until I learned to ask God to help me look at my life through His eyes, from His perspective, that I was able to see the possessions and relationships that I lost were actually separating me from Him. In most cases, I was just too attached. They held a higher place in my life than He did. I never could see it until I had to deal with the loss and then, after reflecting on the situation, I realized God was doing me a favor. He was removing an obstacle between Him and me. He was removing the beam from my eye. It wasn’t until after my divorce that I could see how absent God was in my marriage and how far my relationship with my husband was dragging me away from Him. It is only now that I can see the things He has stripped away from me were keeping me focused on those things and not on Him. God and the promise of life with Him in heaven became all the security I needed, for no possession nor human being can give me that, only God. I invite you to reflect on how God may be trying to remove obstacles between you and Him. And you can count on my prayers for clarity and peace.
Looking at him, Jesus felt a love for him and said to him, “One thing you lack: go and sell all you possess and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow Me.” – Mark 10:21