A friend of mine from work and I went out for dinner one evening. We enjoyed working together and we wanted to get to know each other better without taking away from company time. She told me all about herself, and I did the same, including the divorce I had gone through a few years prior. Her response to me was, “Wow, you’re still Catholic?” I did not hesitate to confirm that answer.
“Let me see,” she said. “Your Catholic husband left you high and dry and now the Catholic Church says you can’t date or be in a relationship with anyone until you go through another legal proceeding? I don’t know, it seems like a lot of hassle. If it were me, I’d just go do my own thing and be happy.”
I was so sad to hear her words. I knew she had no understanding of what it meant to be truly Catholic; truly faithful to Christ in the good times and the bad.
You may feel tempted to just walk away, too. Divorce is hard, no question. But the mere fact that you stay faithful to God is such a delight to Him. How dear to His heart are all your acts of confidence and perseverance even though others challenge you. And whether or not you “feel” it, Christ is closer to you now, more than ever before. Don’t give in to mediocrity but place your trust in God, who, as St. Teresa of Avila says, loves us more than we love ourselves.
Love is patient; it beareth all things (1 Corinthians 13: 4,7).