It’s normal to complain to God, to ask Him why He is allowing you to suffer. In going through a divorce, it’s not difficult to see that the suffering spans many facets of life and for a considerable length of time. It tests anyone’s patience and endurance.
Suffering creates sinners and saints. When you are carrying a painful cross like divorce, you choose how this suffering will affect you. Will you break down, complain, and go in search of wordly relief? Or will you unite your suffering to Christ and bear it with patience? To suffer is to share in God’s glory, if you live it with a supernatural attitude. We must share in Christ’s suffering if we are to share in His glory.
But more than that, suffering reveals your inner beauty; your virtues, your hidden talents that come alive in times of necessity, your strength. Just as an oyster knife intrudes and forces the shells open against the will of the oyster to reveal a precious pearl inside, so suffering forces your shell open to reveals the precious treasure that lies within you.
My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor faint when you are reproved by Him; For those whom the Lord loves He disciplines, and He scourges every son whom He receives (Hebrews 12:6).