I hear all the time people saying, “the holidays just snuck up on me.” Now, being a very busy person, myself, I can see how that happens, but as a divorced person, you can’t let this happen. You don’t want the holidays to sneek up on you and find yourself suddenly faced with all kinds of difficult situations, overwhelming emotions, and lots of down time that can be conducive to pity parties. You want to prepare for these things, and prepare as early as possible.
First, make a list of things to do when you know you’ll have a lot of time to yourself. You know all those things you say you never have time for? Put those things on the list… cleaning out closets, reading a book, waxing your car, etc. It won’t be glamorous, but you will have things to do to keep you occupied and busy and this is key to avoiding the depression that accompanies these situations. And don’t forget to put something that you would enjoy on there, too!
Next, think ahead to how you will handle those uncomfortable and awkward comments that come from family and friends. Personally, my rule of thumb is “charity at all costs” which means I need to look past the remark and recognize who is saying it. I know they don’t like to see me in pain and they want to help but don’t really know how or quite what to say. Let them off the hook and know they are simply trying to find a way to make you feel better… even if it doesn’t make you feel better. Lastly, focus as much as you can on Christ as an infant and the glory of His birth. For this, we can always give thanks because for us, it means everything; it means eternal life.
As is written in the book of the words of Isaiah the prophet: “A voice of one calling in the desert, ‘Prepare the way for the Lord, make straight paths for him (Luke 3:4).
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