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“No way, I am not moving,” was the first thought 49-year-old Lisa had as she started to sort through some of the men who had contacted her shortly after joining CatholicMatch. She had a family business and her roots in Alabama and though she was interested in meeting someone, long-distance wasn’t on the agenda. At least that was the original idea

But Ted was different, and Lisa liked enough of what she saw that she continued to correspond with the man from Texas. The correspondence went well enough that they exchanged phone numbers, and a month later they were on their way to meeting in New Orleans.

The couple was well-prepared when they met. They talked every night on the phone in the month leading up to his arrival. Lisa had prepared a systematic way of identifying romantic prospects. “I had a relationship questionnaire printout,” she recalled. “And we went over everything we wanted in a partner before we met in person.”

Any romantic relationship brings together a fusion of the head and the heart. The questionnaire and the time spent on the phone made Ted and Lisa comfortable intellectually, but the response of the heart often can’t be made until that first contact.

When they met in New Orleans it didn’t take long to find out. “When we met, we knew the minute we hugged each other,” Lisa told CatholicMatch. Four months later Ted proposed, and three months after the proposal they were married.

The wedding in August was the conclusion of a journey Lisa never anticipated. The journey had its roots one night with her 21-year-old son, as they watched television and an ad for a dating site appeared. “Maybe you could find a good man on that site,” her son jokingly said to here.

The following morning there was an e-mail in her inbox from CatholicMatch—to this day Lisa isn’t sure how it found its way to her. She signed up and then had to briefly overcome buyer’s remorse before continuing on to use the site, and then let go of her own doubts about the long-distance idea.

Lisa pulled out all the stops with her marriage to Ted. “We were married August 18, which is my parent’s anniversary,” she said. “They were married 50 years so I know that date is good luck.”

Between good luck, God’s grace and the preparation both she and Ted put in, the couple is well-poised for a lifetime of happiness. It won’t come without some transitional difficulties. Lisa is still living in Alabama, where she is tying up loose business ends that will clear her path to join her husband in Texas.

For his part, Ted has been able to use the time of his transition to remodel his home and create more space for his new bride, something he does in between frequent business travels.

“We felt like we were best friends from the beginning,” Lisa said in looking back at her unexpected journey. “I know that God planned all this, and I am so blessed.”

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12 Comments

  1. Raquel-407986 November 8, 2012

    Unfortunately, i met someone on CM that I instantly connected with. We e-mailed first, talked for about a month, then finally met. Ladies, be careful. Mine was not a good experience. He turned out to be doing some things that weren’t aligned with his expressed beliefs. There are many good people on CM. Be sure to proceed with caution, and clear boundaries!

    • Rita-738838 November 8, 2012

      Oh wow! Sorry you had a bad experience! I haven’t gotten very far on here myself, much less gotten to meet someone.

      • Jeann-850705 November 8, 2012

        John has vowed that either I chose him or nobody, He is monitoring me & any of my move. The last time he gave me a taste of that was Sunday September 9, 2012. He scared me so much that I though he could hurt me. With the kind of attitude and look he gave me.
        I decided to give him another chance to decide that what I am coming back to the city I met him just in few days, I might not go beyond the end of this year if he delays to make his mind. I want to see some signs from that direction that is a person that we can spend together the rest of our life. He needs to run this time to me or nothing.

        • Lois-765906 November 8, 2012

          Jeann,
          It sounds to me like your friend John, is not a good match for you. I once had a guy tell me the same thing. I was very young. He was about 12 years older than me. When he told me I had to choose either him or nobody, I told him to forget it. He then pretty much stalked me
          until I moved away. PLEASE know that no man who professes to care for you should ever make you feel scared. That is a form of domestic violence. You need to get away from him right away. This type of person is not emotionally healthy and, if you choose to continue this relationship, it could have disasterous results. You are in my prayers. Lois

  2. Tom-474970 November 8, 2012

    I am not sure who you are, but if you have a great Heart I Feel a connection even if it is only if it a bit Tom 474970

  3. Gina-775037 November 9, 2012

    hi everyone is gina i still feel like i will never find mr right because god is not doing anything for me

    • JessieVillarosa-908956 November 9, 2012

      HE has a plan for you… best one . be patient and keep praying because there is always
      that Divine intervention…
      i have not found one yet but i know in HIS TIME soon

  4. Teresa-702126 November 11, 2012

    Waiting to love again. I have a great hope to find someone very special at CM I pray to God every day.

  5. Veronica-56352 November 15, 2012

    What a great story! I too believe in long distance relationships, as I had one here on CM! Though it did not work out, I am definitely open to it again. It is up to the committment of the couple. Anything is possible with God! May God bless your marriage, Lisa and Ted. Veronica

  6. Kathleen-878558 November 15, 2012

    Great article. Among other things, I like this, “Any romantic relationship brings together a fusion of the head and the heart.” Good to remember.

  7. Kathleen-878558 November 15, 2012

    Nice article. Among many other things, I like being reminded of this, “Any romantic relationship brings together a fusion of the head and the heart.”

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