I don’t typically have favorites, but if I had to create a top ten favorite movie list, When Harry Met Sally would definitely be on it. There’s a scene in the movie where Harry and Sally’s best friends, Jess and Marie, are discussing the relationship breakdown Harry and Sally just had. Marie’s final response is, “Promise me I’ll never be ‘out there’ again.”
Being single and looking for a lasting relationship, I know you can relate to that term. “Out there.” It sounds so harsh, so cold, so frustrating and lonely. And particularly when the holidays come around being “out there” can make the entire world seem like Antartica. But there is a cure for this common cold single people suffer from. The cure is fire. The fire of love. The burning, flaming, contagious love of Our Lord’s Sacred Heart.
God has repeatedly revealed Himself to us in sacred Scripture as a source of fire. He led the Jews out of Egypt transformed as a pillar of fire to light their way (Nehemiah 9:12). He is described as a devouring fire in the Book of Deuteronomy (Deuteronomy 9:3). The apostles on the road to Emmaus described their encounter with Jesus saying “were not our hearts burning?”(Luke 24:32) At Pentecost, the Holy Spirit came upon the apostles and Mary as tounges of fire (Acts 2:3).
The fire of love that comes from God is a consuming love that nothing can compare to. Wouldn’t you love to experience this amazing warmth? The fire of love?
But worldly concerns and responsibilities always keep us distracted, or even worse, indifferent to the fire. We inch closer, maybe take an extra step in that direction to feel the warmth, but oftentimes are not interested in getting too close. What a shame that the intense fire of love generating from the Sacred Heart of Our Lord Jesus is avoided, and even forgotten.
No Greater Love
In a romantic relationship, you want to experience those intense flames of love. But, in order to do that, you must be on fire, yourself. You must be a source of burning love that can set others on fire. Isn’t that the kind of person you’re looking for? Someone that you can have a passionate relationship with?
If you are feeling that you are lacking these combustible flames that have the potential of setting others ablaze, identify the Source that will provide it and go there. If your love is not intense, impassioned and brilliant, draw near to Christ, but not inch by inch. Run! Put your daily interferences and madness aside and spend time with Christ so you can experience the ferocity of His love for you.
Advent is a like a mini-Lent. It’s a time of preparation and reflection. It’s a time to refocus yourself on what is truly important in life, love. The love of your family, the love of your friends, the love of another person you can be with for the rest of your life.
If you’d like some fiery passion in your life, make time this Advent season to be one-on-one with Christ, whether it’s in Eucharistic Adoration, attending daily mass, or simply getting up 15 minutes early to spend time doing a gospel reflection and prayer. Don’t let this beatiful season of love and the acknowledgement of God’s passionate love for you – a love so passionate that He came down to earth as a helpless child, completely dependent on sinful human beings – pass you by without notice. Let it become the torch that inflames you and you passon to others.
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