Contrary to popular opinion, God is not looking for the Christian that has everything under control, has a perfect family, and perfect spiritual lives.
When my ex-spouse first left, I made the mistake of begging him to go to my family reunion with me and pretend – for my family’s sake – that nothing was wrong with us. He reluctantly agreed and we showed up as a couple. I was too ashamed and embarrassed that we were getting a divorce to let anyone in my family know; I didn’t want to let them down or bring more shame upon myself.
The unfortunate thing was that, first, I didn’t realize how much my family loved me and didn’t give them the opportunity to show me that love. I found out months later, after the news finally broke, that they all came to support and love me.
But more importantly, one of my other relative’s marriage was on the rocks and headed for divorce… and because I was busy pretending my marriage was fine, I missed the opportunity to talk with her on a level that we both needed to support each other.
We are not perfect. Our families are not perfect. Life is not perfect. Christ is not looking for “perfect” Christians. He wants us the way we are with all our imperfections so He can guide us to perfection. Let us strive to be more real, more accepting, and more loving of each other and understand that life is not perfect.