“In my daily life, everywhere I turned, there were reminders of her… I didn’t want to let go. I took comfort in not letting go because I didn’t have to face the challenges of starting my life anew. Even today, almost a year removed from my divorce I think about my wife every day.” (Grant, Voices of Hope DVD - Letting Go)
Letting go of past relationships can be difficult, especially a marriage. There is a sense of security and hope that comes with clinging to what you love, even if it no longer really exists, and this is a completely normal reaction. We are human beings made of flesh and blood with hearts that were created for love, so it is natural to cling to what you love. But in the end, finding a way to detach yourself from what no longer exists is better. Why?
Because in detaching yourself from the person or situation, you give God permission to do His work. And in His infinite wisdom, He will always bring good things out of the pain.