Online dating wasn’t something that was working out for Javier. Not just here on CatholicMatch, but other sites he was trying as well. “Online dating was a convenient way to meet new people, which is why I initially enjoyed it,” the 27-year-old from Austin recalled. “But over time it proved more disappointing and hopeless, as the matches showed no signs of longevity.”
Javier then did something simple. He turned to God and asked for help. He also chose to stay with CatholicMatch, believing it offered him a better chance than elsewhere. “CatholicMatch pinpointed the fact that most of the matches I was paired with wanted to have a spiritually and morally sound relationship,” he said. By contrast, he felt other venues paired him up on superficial similarities that had little bearing on what the other person would actually be like.
It was after seeking Divine guidance, that Javier would find Dominique’s profile. She was 22-years-old and studying biotech at the University of Houston, a two and a half hour drive away. They began communicating online, which in turn went to phone calls, which became daily texts and a few Skype sessions. Eventually it led to a face-to-face date.
“Meeting first time is always a nervous ordeal for me,” Javier candidly admitted. He would cite the extensive preparation they’d had with long-distance communication as important in helping things to settle before the in-person meeting.
Javier and Dominique connected on that first date and their relationship has continued to grow ever since. Two months ago they made themselves officially a “couple,” after Javier had worked through some personal issues he wanted put to rest before entering an exclusive relationship.
“I sometimes have a hard time trusting others due to past incidents,” he told CatholicMatch. One of the many things he has come to appreciate about Dominique is her patience and willingness to work through communication struggles. The relationship “has been happy and patient…filled with daily communication and trust,” he said.
Ultimately Javier was drawn to Dominique’s faith. He is working on growing closer to God, and she was grateful to have someone to share her own Catholic faith with, after living in college atmosphere where there were no such options.
They further share a common Hispanic heritage, something that helped Javier relate more to her, and the faith that comes with that heritage continues to underpin their relationship.
“God knows who and what we are,” Javier told CatholicMatch. “He must know neither of us has been in a serious relationship before but we find so much commonality and attraction for each other that we have learned to appreciate each other in our lives.”