Helena was looking for a relationship with depth. Real depth, the kind of which is rooted in faith. One long-distance connection seemed to be promising, but then it turned out that things weren’t as they seemed.
“Seven out of seven doesn’t always say everything,” she said regarding the faith questions that are a part of the CatholicMatch profile. “It is interesting that once you have been through a bad marriage…and come back to the single life again, you see the bright red flags quicker.”
Then Craig came along, and those red flags became green lights, thanks to the depth of his faith. Craig had been through a bad marriage of his own, and was devoted to keeping his mind, heart and soul focused on Christ. Heavily influenced by his reading of Blessed John Paul II’s Theology of the Body, Craig further avoided a lot of television and instead watched videos of the saints and the Blessed Mother.
When Craig and Helena found each other online, they made extensive use of Facetime for video conferencing. They spent what was later calculated as the equivalent of six months of weekend dates getting to know each other through video. More important, they used that time to pray together.
“I joined him in his morning and evening prayer of the Liturgy of the Hours,” 46-year-old Helena told CatholicMatch. When it was time for them to meet face-to-face, it would be an understatement to say a strong foundation had been put in place.
Craig, 42-years-old and living in southern Maryland, made the two-plus hour drive to Virginia to see Helena and her boys. “We joined some family friends at a Memorial Day get-together and we felt so natural, like we had known each other for years,” Helena said. She returned the favor with a visit back in his direction, joining Craig at the Sunday Mass where he cantors, and to meet his boys in person.
There is any number of signs that something is meant to be, but one of them is surely God seeming to make everything work out. In that light, Craig and Helena are heartened that not only do their combined four boys all get along, but they have even started to join the Facetime prayer sessions. One of Craig’s sons has already mentioned the priesthood as a possibility.
The process of Craig and Helena’s growth as a couple is still developing, as is the possibility of a merger of their families. Helena will be taking her sons to join Craig and his sons on their Youth Group’s camping trip. This was another little thing that just seemed to work out—even before knowing Craig, Helena had taken that weekend off from work.
Above all, Craig and Helena are committed to their relationship being pure and for the Church. Each has had their previous marriage annulled, so they are free to move forward. In the meantime they are enjoying not just each other’s company and that of their boys, but watching the awesome majesty of God’s plan unfold before their eyes.
Helena said it best: “We can never underestimate what God can do if we keep our focus on Him.”